Sarah & Hagar: A Struggle for Honor

Dr. Marvin J. Newell is Senior Vice President of Missio Nexus, a network that connects evangelical mission agencies, churches and training centers across North America. He served over two decades in Indonesia and teaches at Moody and Western. This article is adapted form his latest book Crossing Cultures in Scriptures: Biblical Principles For Mission Practice.

Sarah held a position of honor within the greater community as Abraham’s wife. But over time her inability to bear children brought shame. Not only was Sarah frustrated, she was also devastated.

Abraham then has a child named Ishmael through their servant, Hagar the Egyptian. Tensions rose between Sarah and Hagar while Hagar was pregnant. Taking advantage of her newly exalted position, Hagar dishonored Sarah. In return, Sarah treated Hagar so badly that she ran away (but God sent her back).


Then 14 years later, Isaac was born to Sarah. Not long afterward, Sarah observed Ishmael dishonoring infant Isaac by mocking him. This offense so displeased Sarah that she persuaded Abraham to expel Hagar and Ishmael permanently from their community. (God does aid Hagar and bless Ishmael with a great nation, cf. Gen 21:15-21; 25:12-18.)

Sarah: A Mean, Jealous Wife?

A cursory reading of this account might have us conclude that Sarah was a mean, callous, jealous wife out to do harm to a powerless subordinate. Twice she pushed Hagar to the point of near death. Twice she didn’t seem to care if Hagar and her child survived a scheme that she herself had orchestrated. It appears that they were nothing more than objects to be taken advantage of and then discarded. By the end of the story Sarah became an ungrateful, overprotective mother who heartlessly banished her rival.

That would be a typical Western interpretation of this ancient account— Sarah was guilty of mistreating an innocent attendant. But there’s an honor-shame side to this story that we dare not miss.

Sarah’s Conflict

Sarah was rightfully offended, even dishonored, by her servant Hagar. Hagar’s attacks were a direct assault on her worth, value and personhood in the eyes of the community. Her position and her reputation were at stake. If she permitted Hagar to persist in her actions, her own worth of belonging would be compromised—even to the extent of a possible disconnect with her husband, Abraham. Hagar put Sarah in quite a vulnerable position

screen-shot-2016-09-13-at-4-32-40-pmThe Hebrew helps us see this tension in the phrase “she looked with contempt on her mistress” (Gen 16:4). The Hebrew qalal literally means, “be made light of.” The ESV translates this, “her mistress was dishonorable in her eyes.”

This was a grave cultural faux pas on Hagar’s part. By dishonoring Sarah, she was attacking her very being, causing her to feel flawed and unworthy. In that society, this was the highest form of offense that could be dished out upon another. Hagar was cunningly manipulative; Sarah was deeply humiliated.

Fourteen years later, Hagar’s son brought a similar dishonor on Sarah’s newborn son, Isaac. Moses recorded it: “But Sarah saw the son of Hagar the Egyptian whom she had borne to Abraham, laughing” (Gen 21:9) The word laughing (Hebrew tsakhaq) more precisely means “to mock” or “to jest at ” (cf. Gal 4:29). Again, a shame is intended. Ishmael wanted Isaac to be seen as flawed and unworthy, hoping for a disconnect between Isaac and his father, Abraham, so that he would be seen as the undisputed son of blessing.

A Struggle for Honor

Although Isaac was far too young to understand the slight, Sarah did. She knew the implications of such shame on the one who God had designated to inherit the line of blessing promised to Abraham in Genesis 12:1-3. The consequences to the family lineage and ultimately to the nations were too significant for Ishmael’s slight to go unopposed. So she acted to preserve the honor that was rightfully Isaac’s (Gen 21:8-21).


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5 Comments on “Sarah & Hagar: A Struggle for Honor

  1. Thank you for re-telling the story. I still think it was mean of Sarah – where was ‘hospitality’? A reprimand would be more fitting (in my western thinking) than sending a woman away to die in the desert!

  2. Interesting. How does Hagar’s laughing in 21:9 relate to Sarah use of laughing in verse 6? “God has made laughter for me; everyone who hears will laugh over me.”

    Are all three the same Hebrew root?

  3. One could justify this interpretation by Heb 11:11 and Gal 4:29. The word ‘persecuted’ for Ismael’s action is underlining the fact that the promise of God was at stake by mocking the little Isaac. I think we need to understand that Sarah – who first laughed in unbelief to God’s promise about her son – came to her self and believed! In Gen 18 she looks to have been an unbelievers, but Heb 11 presents her rightly as a believer. She understood her call to become the mother of Abraham’s child, and gave herself (already an old woman!) sexually to Abraham to become pregnant in a ‘natural’ way, which was a first class qualified sexual action of belief! It might have even be the case that God used the (human) search of Sarah for honor to protect the continuation of the history to fulfill God’s promise. God is historically working in a human way using human ups and downs in life. Thanks for the mail and the tip for the book.I surely will buy it, as also being involved in mission in Indonesia for 14 years and scheduled to be back in the job again by 2017.

  4. God has promised to make Ishmael a great nation before Isaac was even born(gen.17:20); therefore he had his own birth right separate from Isaac.

    Secondly I think sarah would have wanted to kick hagar out,even if she didnt see Ishmael laughing, because of her hostility towards Hagar. She simply didn’t want Ishmael and Isaac to share Abraham’s inheritance( worldly possessions passed down to someone).

    Thirdly, god said Abraham’s Covenant or relationship with God was going to be tracked through Isaac not Ishmael… If Abraham wanted to he could have sent Ishmael away with a small flock and that would have been his inheritance.

    In conclusion, I think God encouraged Abraham to send Ishmael a way to keep internal conflict down. Additionally there’s evidence in Genesis 21:20 that God set up his own Covenant with Ishmael. So I think, because of his Egyptian origin his Covenant had different principles than the Hebrews. Additionally if you do your research and find out that Ishmael fathered the Islamic religion

  5. This post makes a lot of sense. What irritates me is the translating choices. They should have picked mocked instead of “laughed” because when I was listening to the audio bible, it seemed that Ishmael was playing with Isaac.

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